Creating a Haven of Peace with Joanne Miller on The Better Relationship Podcast

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Being married is challenging. Add being married to an entrepreneur and the difficulties and challenges grow exponentially. With candor, honesty, and humor, my friend, Joanne Miller talks business, bankruptcy, and blessings in the midst of raising babies and growing a strong marriage, while intentionally Creating a Haven of Peace.

Joanne Miller, is an artist, speaker, blogger, author and wife of Dan Miller, founder of 48 Days. In this episode, she shares insights and wisdom, about being married to an entrepreneur, from her new book Creating a Haven of Peace: When You’re Feeling Down, Finances Are Flat, and Tempers are Rising.

Women Leaders in a Glass Ceiling World

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Assertive leadership and ambition are applauded in men, but women are often called bossy or aggressive when demonstrating those same qualities.  Regardless of your politics, it is heartening to see a female presidential candidate shattering one of the toughest glass ceilings in America.  But, she is paying for it on many fronts.

As a woman, gifted with ambition and assertiveness, I’ve hit a lot of glass ceilings, and brick walls through the years – as well as fielded questions and disparaging looks for my desire to lead (especially in circles of conservative faith).

I’ve coached many women who have wrestled with navigating how to embrace their unique strengths, and effectively lead with confidence in a “good old boys club” world.  It begins with refusing to accept glass ceiling limits and archaic mindsets.

Disclaimer:  I agree – not all men, organizations, companies are guilty of these attitudes, disrespect, and discrimination. God love you guys, because I sure do!

These questions and reflections are in response to the other guys. (insert smile)

Have you ever been criticized, ostracized,  ignored or dismissed because you are an assertive woman in a leadership role? 

  • I have been negatively called everything from aggressive to unsubmissive.
  • I have been told multiple times, “If a man said or did that, it wouldn’t be a problem. He would be assertive, bold, leader, but it isn’t the same for women.”
  • I have weathered dagger looks, raised eyebrows and clucking tongues for speaking up, jumping in, disagreeing with the status quo, and/or wanting to shatter a long held glass ceiling.

Can you relate?

Shame, struggle, defensiveness, and defeat chased me every time I heard these words or felt the arrows of judgement.  For a long time, I wondered why God made me this way. I became skilled at playing mental whack-a-mole, desperately trying to be different in order to fit in.

 Massive Failure Alert!

This internal war sidelined me for years.  Through therapy, coaching, and surrounding myself with people who support and enjoy who I am as an ambitious, assertive, driven leader.  They encourage me to live and work full out from my strengths, chipping away until there is no glass ceiling.

As I have gotten older, I’ve put down the whack-a-mole bat through  and embraced the wonder of how I am wired, even in the midst of bruises to my head and heart from hitting glass ceilings and brick walls.

 At times, it has been difficult to find acceptance in a man’s world – with both men and women. Raising daughters brought this issue to the forefront.

I continue to coach women to embrace their ambitions and unique strengths.  If we want a seat at the table, we need to boldly pull up a chair and participate.

Sure it will be awkward, lonely, uncomfortable at times – but change begins outside everyone’s comfort zone.

But it is doable:

  • Join an all women mastermind (mine is called Amplify) made up of  like minded women colleagues committed to encourage and champion each other, rather than compete and criticize.
  • Have a posse of women leaders on speed dial when you take hits or are tempted to minimize your strengths.
  • Read great articles about women who are forging ahead on the less traveled path for encouragement, ideas, and confidence.

Thanks to my friend and woman leader expert,  Ann Vertel for this article and the reminder to work, live, and act as if we belong in the highest levels of leadership, because we do!

How have you handled the times you hit the glass ceiling,  banged into the brick wall of criticism, or were tempted to shy away from being a strong woman leader?

Social Wealth w/ Jason Treu on The Better Relationship Podcast #048

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Jason Treu, of BeExtraordinary.tvbelieves that people and your relationships are your true “wealth.” Everything we accomplish in life is with or through other people, or what Jason calls, Social Wealth.  Jason shares strategies from his bestselling book, Social Wealth to equip you to maximize your relationships for greater business success and personal fulfillment in life.

True Confessions: Marriage is Hard

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This post by Richard Paul Evans is profound and a beautiful portrayal of how hard -but oh so worth it- marriage can be.

The hubs and I will celebrate 33 years of marriage on 6/24 and we too have spent years fighting, in silence, distant and discouraged… and in the midst of them there was joy, laughter, connection.

All of it stemmed from a deep desire to know and be known, to love and be loved. Clumsy at times, downright ugly at others, juxtaposed with sweet moments of enjoying our kids, or tender glimpses of our best selves and the marrige we longed for.

My marriage is the soil for my greatest growth, my most devastating mistakes, the acute pain and wonder of hope.

Today, on this side of fighting to not just stay married – but to build a loving, initimate, transparent, safe, and deeply connected marriage – we are grateful and enjoying the fruits of our hard work, both individually and together.

The Referral of a Lifetime w/ Tim Templeton

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Tim Templeton, bestselling author of The Referral of a Lifetime, shares insider tips for creating powerful relationships that yield success in business and fulfillment in life.  As an experienced business coach and speaker, Tim helps others reach their goals and personal potential in business. He outlines his 5 point system for gaining referrals for a lifetime so you never have to cold call again.

How to Create Healthy Relationships w/ Jane Nguyen – Better Relationship Podcast #046

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 Better Relationship Podcast #046

How to Create Healthy Relationships w/ Jane Nguyen

Jane Nguyen is an Author, Speaker, Transformational Dating & Relationship Mentor from Honeymoon Forever. She joins Susie Miller on the Better Relationship Podcast to discuss how to create healthy relationship. Jane share her personal story of leaving an abusive relationship, pursuing personal growth and subsequently coaching women to embrace their feminine power and create the relationship they want.

Jane’s Bio:

Jane Nguyen is an author, speaker, and author of Honeymoon Forever, who empowers strong, independent & savvy women to create the best relationship of their lives. Her clients come from all walks of life, whether it’s about re-inventing themselves after a nasty relationship breakup, wanting to attract a more conscious and loving man into their lives; or wanting to save their relationship from the brink of break up or divorce. Jane is the ‘go-to girl’ for people who want to experience transformational change in their relationships.

Jane comes from a background of a 6-year abusive relationship (both physically & emotionally). After leaving that relationship, Jane devoted many years of her life in the space of personal development to find out the key ingredients to create a successful relationship. Through her coaching programs & workshops, Jane educates women how consciously create the relationship of their dream regardless of what happened in the past. Jane also specializes in teaching “The art of Feminine Essence & The core of Masculine Power”.

Jane is an author of the book “Honeymoon Forever” which is available at 40 bookstores Australia wide including Dymocks, Collins, Booktopia etc. She is also a contributing author of 3 other inspiring books that arm people with the skills and knowledge to be the best version of themselves before they walk into relationships.

Jane’s Website: http://janenguyen.com.au/

Susie’s book:  Listen, Learn, Love: How to Dramatically Improve Your Relationship in 30 Days or Less!

 

 

How to NOT Bankrupt your Marriage While Pursuing Profits & Success

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So a few weeks ago I had the fantastic opportunity to be interviewed by Mike Flynn for his podcast, The Impact Entrepreneur. The interview was a blast, and we got into detail on some topics I’m really passionate about, including networking, connecting, and my P.R.O.F.I.T. method.

Also covered in the episode are:

  • What led me to entrepreneurship
  • Which mentors have really impacted my life and guided me
  • Some stories from successful couples I’ve coached
  • The type of legacy I want to leave the world with

Loads of details and a full breakdown of my P.R.O.F.I.T. method.

Even Michael Hyatt got a mention during our chat!

You can find my interview on the website, on iTunes, or on Stitcher.

I already know you’re going to get tons of value from listening to the show, so I want you to tell me what your biggest takeaway is; connect with me on social media with your favorite parts of the interview.

Thanks Mike for having me 🙂