Have you ever wondered why it is so hard to actually go on a date with your spouse? Between jobs, kids, household responsibility, carpools, homework, volunteer commitments – it isn’t surprising there is rarely time.
But in those rare moments, when the reality of actually going on a date comes up and everything aligns- like the rare blood moon lunar eclipse-you have no idea where to go or what to do!
Has that happened to you? It did far too often for us!
The babysitter is on her way, the kids are settled down with a movie and pizza, we are dressed and ready to go-excited about a date night for just the two of us.
Standing in the doorway, in grown up clothes-free from stains, kids fingerprints- and not exhausted, but actually have some energy for each other… and the dreaded question arises…
“Where should we go?” “What do you want to do?”
(Insert Record Scratch here!)
The mood deflates, the tiredness you have been staving off descends, and frustration builds.
Date night just got hard.
Didn’t we go through lots of hard just to get here to these few hours just for us?
Few things ruin the evening faster than a ride on the merry go round of “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know; what do you want to do?”
Pressure builds as ideas either don’t come or are tossed aside with, “I’m not in the mood for____.”
Can you relate?
Well, today I saw an idea that is so simple and yet so brilliant it will Save Date Night forever!
My friend Julie, decided she was tired of riding the merry go round, and wanted the date night planned out a bit by her husband. He was often at a loss and quite honestly tired at the end of a long day or week, with little energy to think of grand ideas big or small. So Julie wrote up a list! (picture used with permission.)
Yes! You can save date night with a paper and pen! List the ideas when you have them! (This rarely happens on command.) Make a list and post it for your husband to see, or each of you could do one and take turns planning date nights.
No more scrounging for an idea at the last minute! No more merry go round riding that ruins date night!
A list can help you prepare. You can look ahead for upcoming events, or plan idea #12 a sunset picnic” (Would you ever have thought of that one?)
I love this simple idea for saving date night and setting you both up for a successful, fun, and connecting time together!
What are some of your favorite date night ideas? Large AND Small, Expensive to Thrifty, Planned to Spontaneous! Who knows, your ideas might inspire others!