Are you a people pleaser? Do you get caught up in making decisions to keep people happy rather than being willing to do what is best for you and risk them being disappointed?
Sometimes saying “No.” is the best answer to give. Just because the other person isn’t happy to hear “No” doesn’t make it wrong.
To be successful in life we have to be willing to disappoint others.
It may sound simple, but being a people pleaser can cost you in the long term.
By failing to set boundaries, you will take on more than you can handle.
People around you may exploit their relationship with you because they know you will never say NO.
As a result, you may form feelings of resentment towards those people.
That being said, standing up for yourself has its own challenges.
It pushes you out of your comfort zone and forces you to have some ‘guts’ to stand your ground.
Here are 5 ways to do it.
- Recognize and acknowledge your feelings about a request.
- Look at your goals and assess how the request fits into them.
- Decide what the best course of action is that is aligned with your goals.
- Make a decision and be willing to say “No.”
- Affirm that boundaries actually protect what you said, “Yes,” to and give you margin to do those things well.
How do you set boundaries?