touchRemember when you were dating and you held hands, walked with your arms around each other, sat close and were basically touching all the time?!

Fast forward into 3,6, 10, 15, 20, even 30 years of marriage and are you still holding hands any chance you get?

Probably not, if you are like most couples!

What happened?


In this short video, I share one of my top tips for staying connected to your spouse. If you do nothing else but begin to hold hands more often, I Promise you will see an improvement in your relationship!

One of may favorite stories is walking into many football and soccer games holding hands with John.  Not something I see alot of parents of teenagers do.  Even when we were tired, harried, or even a bit annoyed with each other, it was just our thing.  We held hands at ball games.

And one day, a woman stopped us on our way to the bleachers and said,”  I see you guys holding hands all the time…you must be in love… are you newly married?”

I smiled, and nodded… as she began her sentence, but then stopped.

“Oh yes, we are still in love… at least most days.  But we have been married over 25 years!”

I was glad she saw our connection, but saddened she assumed it was because we were a newer couple. Like holding hands is just for newlyweds, or second marriages when it’s obvious we have teenagers.

She looked at me with the eyebrows raised, head cocked, “Really?!? Seriously…!”

“Yep,” I replied.  “We aren’t always feeling so In love as much as we do love each other and are in it for the long haul, and I like to hold hands.”

She smiled, and thoughtfully replied, “I’m going to have to try that… we’ve been married 19 years and stopped holding hands years ago.”

I hope she did try it and that her husband was eager and willing!!

This may seem like a small thing, but holding hands has kept us connected.

And helps remind both of  us that he is my boyfriend and I am his girl forever!

I hope you will try it too!

Maybe some other couple will see you and wonder, or start holding hands too!

Let me know if you do and how it impacted your connection, in the comments below.





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